etiquette

HOW TO write a thank you note

We had our first wedding shower. It was so magical and perfect. The night ended with porch dancing under the moonlight with our closest family and friends. There is nothing my soul loves more than a good porch party under the summer stars. 

Newly engaged, the future husband and I were smitten and blessed beyond belief that so many people had come together to celebrate our future together. We spent days organizing such thoughtful housewarming presents and we're thrilled to start our lives together "playing house." 

After the shower, I was probably the one person EXCITED to write thank you notes. I love sending snail mail and especially love receiving it back. There's just something personal and real about the handwritten note.

It's easy to get stuck on what to say and how long or short to keep it. So I'm sharing with you my guide to thank you notes and some etiquette on how long after your shower or wedding you should send your snail mail out. 

 

THE SIMPLE STRATEGY 

GREETING
Dear Timothy & Laura,

WHY YOU'RE WRITING
Michael and I wanted to send a big thank you for celebrating our engagement party with us. We are so thrilled to begin our lives together. 

GIFT REFERENCE
We absolutely love our new blender!

WHY YOU LOVE IT
You know I love to bake, I cannot wait to use whip up some sweet treats!

THANKS AGAIN
Thank you so much again for sharing such a joyous occasion with us. We are so unbelievably lucky to be surrounded by such amazing family & friends. 

CLOSING
With love, Michael & Hope

 

 

ETTIQUETE

AFTER A HOSTED EVENT
If you are sending thank you notes out after a shower or engagement party, you want to mail them within 2-3 weeks after the hosted event.

PRE-WEDDING WEDDING GIFTS
If you receive a wedding gift prior to the wedding, you want to mail your thank you note out as soon as possible, but for sure before the wedding.

WEDDING DAY GIFTS
If you receive wedding gifts the day of the wedding, you should mail your thank you notes within three months of your big day.

Promptness is always best!